Sunday, May 16, 2010

Death......


As many parents may know there is the stage where death needs to appear in a life of

a human being. This time it came in my kid where at an early age he needed to go out

of the world. This is really sad to me and to any single parent to loose a kid in this

way. Since Im a single parent, this have been a very strong feeling that is not a good

feeling like everybody would like to have. I raised my child since he was born until

this happen. I also treat him the best way and gave him the best. I gave him a home to

stay and a school where we learned new things, also I gave him cloth to keep him

warm, but life sometimes his not fair. I guess in sometimes I didnt gave him to much

attention but I gave him all my love and caring to make him to what he is know. I

guess he is now in a better place Resting In Peace, I guess Im alone again like I

started, but as the days pass I realize I did my best to be a single parent. I will never

forget the day when we where walking and he got push and was drop in to the rocks

and broke all his body. There was blood all over the place and I could not do anything

about it. It was terrible but life continues as it is.

Age 14.....Partying Starts


As many teen parents know this is the age of partying and going to parties and everything. Emilio does not stay behind. He is asking me if I could go and let me go to parties where there are no adults or any kind of protection that could keep him secure. For example tha last time there was going to be a party at a friend house. I know this stories because I experienced it when I was a young kid. So he asked me if he could go and have some fun, I know there where going to be any adults, but I trust on him that he would behave good and will not drink or consume drugs. I have known my child since the day he was born and he is a very responsible and good caring guy. Many other parents have tell me that I should be careful in the way I raise my kid, but I know how to care for him. I think Im that kind of parents who let do their kids what ever they want, but they need to be safe and doing right things. I think Im most of a permissive parent than a Authoritative parent.

Age 13.....Challenges of a teen parent

Being now a teen parent has been different for me and different for Emilio, because know this is where some problems start to arrive. Some challenges that have presented to me in the past years of being a teen parent are that know he wants to go out at everytime and sometimes he complains because I dont let me go. He usually gets mad, and when we are eating he dosent talks to me because he is mad. One thing also that I have to take control is when to get him to study because he is know getting lazy. Know there is also a big challenge and its that know he is looking out for girls. Well in that kind of things is not doing bad but I guess there is need to be a control. I remebered that days when I looked out for girls, it was really fun! Emilio have brougth me many challenges but I now how to control it and have good care.

Age 12.....Puberty!


I think this is when the fun part begins in every young teen, what I mean is Puberty! Many days have passed since little Emilio was born, and know he get to this age where puberty starts to develop. For example now that he is 12 years of age he has a little bit of a deeper voice. Also some pubic hair starts to appear. He is always asking me if I passed through this strange ¨sensations¨ that he is feeling. I just tell him that is normal at that age that this kind of things starts to appear. Now when he ask me permitions to go to party, most of the time, the parties are like in some fun areas like a friends house or something fun and safe. I do let me to because I know there is going to be adults around and he will be safe. I guess the things are going to change because know he is getting more different and this are all symptoms of puberty.

Age 11......Growing Up


Every year have been difficult to mantain a single boy and even be a single paren, but I have learned many things been a single parent. Now Emilio is eleven years old and that have been a lot of time taking good care of him. I really enjoy teaching new things like riding a bike, playing soccer, having fun in the right time and studying in most of the time. I think this have been the age in where is growing up like a teen and have the power to control himself, and also distinguish whats right for him and what is wrong. I have always tell him to do the right things, to learn new things that could help him in the future. I think the hardest part of a human being is growing up because thats the age in which many people sometimes fail or they have a lot of success. He has been a great kid and he will always be.

Age 10.....The millionaire Box


After all the stress from the school and from the job, we decided to go to the beach for a vacation and have our family to join us and enjoy the beach. We went to the beach and we where sitting on the sand digging with Emilio. I left my boy digging in the sand and I went to take the sun and have some tanning. While I was tanning Emilio came over me and ask me if he could borrow from me my cellphone. At the begging I thought he was going to use it to play, but later I see him talking with somebody. At first I ask him to whom he was talking, but he told that he found a box with 1 million Lempiras, when I heard that I was in schock and he told me he didnt know what to do with the box, so I told him to give it to me. But later I remebered about the call that he had made, and I asked him if that call that he made was related to the box he found. He answered me yes, so know I didnt what to do with the box. I think we where in trouble but we left the box with the 1 million Lempiras where Emilio found it and leave. I got really scared but later I relaxed and enjoy the beach with little Emilio.

Age 9....Behaving like a young adult


Emilio have experienced many changes since the years have passed, and he starts behaving like a young adult in such early age. I guess this is because he sees me working and doing adult stuff he is know behaving like a young adult. He is now more socializing with different kind of people in his school or where ever he goes he starts to greet people. I guess because of the age he have right now he is not aware of what his doing if good or bad, right or wrong but there is one thing I can say about Emilio, he will be a great guy when he starts to grow up and will have a lot of sweetness with the people he migth meet in the future and that will help him to continue with a good and a right life.

Age 7.....Learning new Things

Little Emilio is now learning new things, just like the post tittle says. He is now in first grade and he is having a good developing stage. He likes to do many things like play soccer, watch T.V., hang out with his friends and many other things. He also learned a new thing, to us the computer and chat with his friends. Thats a big step because he can now learned all the technology that have arrived in these days. He also now all the number from 1-100 and nows already the ABC. I think little Emilio is a very inteligent kid and he is also very helpful at home. Most of the time we his playing with his toys but most of the time also he is helping me in keeping me working on my things. He likes to help and everything that I need. I really love little Emilio and I can say that he is a blessing of God.

Age 8.....The Kid


It have eigth years and my little baby has turned into a kid. Little Emilio is no more a little baby or a little kid, now is a young kid. There are some few changes over the past months that I have been noticing in Emilio. For example he likes to wear socks of different colors in the each leg. I has really surprised because I always dress Emilio in a right way, but I guess this changes are nurture things. This means he is experimenting some changes because of the environment he is in the school or with his friends. When I leave him at school, his friends are using different colors of socks in each leg and I guess thats the reason why he is doing this certain things. One thing that I have noticed also is that he sleeps a lot. I guess thats just a normal nature thing. When I was his age, I usually slept a lot and had to sleep in the night a little bit.

Age 6.....Caos


Now little Emilio is six years of age and now he is learning to control more itself in certain situations, but there is one thing I couldnt control when we where in the airport waiting for my brother to come. Little Emilio wanted a popsicle because he was hungry, he kept insisting that he wanted the popsicle, but I say no because it was to expensive and the place that we wanted from look dirty. So he had a huge tantrum that we wanted the popsicle and he started running all over the place and keep making loud noises. I didnt now what to do in that moment but he kept making mess. Everybody look at him like what he was crazy and also looked at me to control my child. So the first thing that I did was to buy the popsicle and tell him if he behaved I would buy him the popsicle. Now little Emilio learned that everytime he wants something he needs to behave to earned it.

Saturday, May 15, 2010

Age 5....Behavior


Now my little baby has pass to a little boy! Little Emilio have now 5 years of age and he is learning knew things like how to count, how to write, how to read and many other interesting things that he learned in school. This have been very helpful in the learning in little Emilio, in the school the teacher have tell me that he is a smart kid and that he have no problems in learning. He is learning to control itself and have a self concept of him. That have been a good start, since I'm a single parent and he is a single child. There are some things that I need to set, for example my authority over my kid. Normally little Emilio is well behaved but sometimes he touches something and I say no, he starts complaining about the situation. I just say No and the what it is! but I do it in a way to make him comprehend.

Age 4....School Time!


Know that my baby is old enough, I can get him to a school and have some learning for my little beautiful baby. I have searched through out some school the tuition and there cost. For example having my little boy at EIS would cost me about 1000 lempiras and in a year its about 100,000 lempiras to have my baby at EIS. Its a little expensive to have my little boy in EIS, but I think I have the money to pay for having my little bay at EIS. So I have already decided to put my little boy at EIS since he is prepared because before that he was in a daycare center where they showed him many important things. I hope my boy can control itself and the teacher would not be calling all the time like I was with my parents.!

Age 3!

It being so long since my baby was born and every time I go check my baby he is sleeping or he is playing with his favorite teddy bear. So once I decided to play with my beautiful baby and I got his favorite teddy bear. He started to cry, I didn't know what to do at that moment because I always did him the same trick and he did cry. I think we developed a stranger anxiety, this anxiety they developed around the age of 8 months but know that he is 3 I guess he has this anxiety. Always that I see my baby crying I grab him and create a sort of attachment to feel that my baby is protected and I feel some responsive parenting, which means that I'm a good parent. Also that way he can developed familiarity. Sometimes in the night I need to wake up and feed the baby, get him to the bathroom, sing some songs and put it back to sleep. This was very stressful because I needed to wake up sometimes at 1 a.m., at 4 a.m, at 8 a.m., at noon, while I'm taking lunch, and when I'm working in the computer. I still love my baby eventought I have to do all this hard work.

Age 2


Now my baby can walk and do somethings, but there is one thing that I need to work with my baby and its potty training! or as many people knows it bathroom time! hahaha. This is very funny since know I need to teach my baby how to poop and pee on the right spot in the pot. I remembered when my dad had to potty trained me, know I need to do it to my little and beautiful baby! I remembered somethings that I learned in my psychology class about potty training and there where very helpful but now i can potty trained my baby in my way. The first time to when I went with my baby in the bathroom and it was very difficult and somethings happened that maybe there are not appropriate to share them. The days passed and I was showing my baby how to do poop and pee in the right spot in the pot. Finally I had an advanced and now I can rest from potty trained my baby.

Age 1


Since my baby was born I had to do many shopping for my baby, for example the cloth that he needed to wear, the shoes, the socks and many other things. It was pretty good having to do all this shopping, but at the same time was a little bit weird since I was a single parent so I had some struggles buying. When I got home and my baby saw all this things, he got excited because all the things he saw made him so happy. I also bought him some toys of complex patterns because that way is easier to understand for him to what he is seeing. Days passed and my baby was even more beautiful. He like to eat sweet things like bananas and chocolate. His favorite fruit was the Bananas.

Baby is Born!


My little Baby is born now! Finally after 9 months of stress and constant wife, I get to stay with my baby when it got born. After seeing him developing as embryo to a fetus and then to a baby it was a long time and very hard. When I got to see my baby the first thing that they told me that my baby was sick and he had developed autism. I was worried at the begin but later the doctors explained to me and I felt better. My little baby weighted about 7 pounds and it had about 23 inches of height. I knew my baby would be tall just like his dad. I'm finally happy to have a baby and to me it does not matter to be a single parent because i can take good care of my baby! Here are some pictures of my baby that you may see.